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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just to clarify are you saying you won’t gift funds over time yet still will leave money at your death? Or are you saying you will set them up to launch well and will leave any remaining money to charity at your death?

If it’s the latter, I 100% agree with you.[/quote]

I will set them up to launch including the things I mentioned in my OP, give them minimal gifts during their adulthood with the exception of education funds for grandchildren, and let them inherit (in addition to setting up scholarships) if they’ve lived a responsible life. If there are special circumstances like health issues or purposefully going into a very noble but low-paying profession then of course I will reconsider. But the point is to not enable a lifestyle where they are living above their means (big house, private school, $$ vacations) and perpetually dissatisfied that they are not receiving more and more handouts.[/quote]

You do you, it's your money.

I'd prefer to see my kids and grandkids enjoy the generational wealth we are beginning as a family while I'm alive, not when my kids are 60+ (I plan to live a good long life)
But [b]if you have raised your kids right[/b], helping them buy a better home in a better area or gifting the grandkids private school is not going to make them "perpetually dissatisfied that they are not receiving more and more handouts".

If they become like that, I'd scale back what I'm giving.  [/quote]

This is the question.  Can you “raise your kids right” when you offer these types of gifts?  [b]In my experience, it makes the kids just a little less hungry and a little less able to meet their full potential.  [/b]For most people, there must be some sort of risk to get to reward.   I don’t think you can take teach this.

I don’t know what the right answer is.  I plan to offer my kids a debt free college.  Money for a wedding.  Probably will help with a down payment.  And all that is a huge leg up.  But I won’t contribute to their day to day bills.  They need to figure that out on their own.  [/quote]

You think one can only reach their full potential by working to achieve a certain income? [/quote]

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