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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Clear that a lot of people attacking sororities on this thread have no clue how sorority bid matching works.  The system, by design, gives every girl who participates in preference night parties (the last night of rush) a bid.  Each house is only allowed a certain number of bids which is determined by dividing the overall number of girls participating by the number of houses.  So, if there are 3 houses and 75 girls still rushing, each sorority is limited to 25 bids max.  A popular sorority probably could give out two or three times as many bids, but they aren’t allowed to as the system wants each house to have an equal shot at a full pledge class.

The sororities rank just as the girls do.  A sorority might love the 36th girl on their list but she still won’t get a bid from them if their quota is reached.  The matching between lists is not done by the sororities themselves (they just turn in their list) , and they are sometimes as surprised by the results as the girls rushing.  It’s an imperfect system but designed to give every girl an option, and to have as many full (aka vibrant) sorority houses on campus as possible.

I am sure it is momentarily devastating not to get the most desired house.  But I hope that we are raising our daughters with enough resilience and grit that they can accept this disappointment and move on, just as they would do if they don’t make a varsity team or first chair in orchestra.[/quote]

+1000 this. Its not personal and no some of the girls in the sororities themselves don't even know who was dropped. Its all fed into the computer and the computer matches. No one is snickering about the rushees behind their back, unless they are in the top houses that don't even give people a chance if they don't know them, but again why would you want to be with that group? Just because some boys think they are the prettiest?[/quote]

It’s 100% personal. Otherwise there would be no rush- it would be a blind lottery. What do you think that information “fed into the computer” is ??? It’s votes based on how many girls “want”  you based on the 10 minutes they spend with you and how many mutual friends you already have. [/quote]

Again my DD just went through rush. She spoke with rushees for 20 min the first day and rated them on many things (official rating sheets) including enthusiasm for the house, their communication skills, whether they were engaged in the discussion and asking good questions. None of these ratings had anything to do with looks wealth, boyfriends, drinking etc. It is all just trying to determine if this person is interested in the house and able/willing to communicate well. Do you think that is too high a bar?[/quote]

Do you really think that what actually happens? [/quote]

I absolutely do, my DD told me all about it. They have very strict rules about what they can ask and sororities were suspended for talking about drinking etc. [/quote]

Yeah. For drinking. But they have your resume and before they even see your face, you’re ranked by where you went to high school, who your daddy is, who your mama is (and what house she was in), what ECs you did and where ($$), your GPA, your SAT, your house, any other status symbols they can discern from your resume, and MOST importantly, how many girls have already said “we know her” “we want her” because they went to the same high school, church, country club, etc. There are occasional outliers, but it is mostly hush hush dirty rush. [/quote]

You are talking about top houses. I am sure you know know that the vast majority of houses do not dirty rush and the vast majority of sororities on campus are not considered "top houses" and yet they absolutely have a great sisterhood, even better, are less cliquey than the top houses. No one NEEDS to be in a top house. If you're kid dropped out of rush because they didn't get a "top house" they need to do some soul searching, and you do too as their mom.

There are places for everyone. My DD was happy telling me that bid a girl she loved during rush. Why did she love her? Because she was bubbly and friendly and excited and fun to talk to. I don't even think she knows what town she's from and she certainly doesn't know anything about who her daddy is or her SAT, but she does know what activities she participates in on campus and her major etc.  [/quote]

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