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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you think an unhooked smart kid is better off in public?

We know a family who sends their kid to St Albans and it seems like the mom has been rejected socially. It seems like a lot of trouble and money to attend an elite school to not be included. Parents are wealthy enough to full pay but not rich. Parents attended good schools but not ivy. I know they want their kids to go to an ivy or equivalent. [/quote]

Many families that prioritize academics left public schools. So it is much easier for a smart academically minded kid to find their peeps in private.  That’s part of why we go, even though financially it is very hard.

Parental inclusion? How old is DD, because after 4th it’s all drop off events and I’m not looking to make parent friends. Sure I’ll be friendly and chat when we encounter each other, but how often would that even happen [/quote]

Are you saying parents don’t prioritize education if they send their kids to public?[/quote]

I’m not OP, but I’ll be honest since it’s anonymous: if you can afford an excellent private school and choose to send your kids to a public school, despite knowing it has problems (and that’s not all public schools, so that’s an important caveat), then yes — I think that shows you don’t prioritize education. Prioritizing education means sending your kids to the absolute best place you can, whether that’s public or private. [/quote]

This fool still thinks private education gives any advantage over public education.  Taking out St. Albans and Sidwell, the college admissions are practically identical for public and private in the DMV.  [/quote]

And you're the "fool" who completely missed the boat that education is MORE than college admissions for these families.[/quote]

How are they measuring the outcomes then? Getting into college is a culmination of a lot of things from grades to test scores to extracurriculars to the actual application. If the students at privates and publics have the same end result with similar inputs , then what’s the differentiator on one education being better than the other ? [/quote]

There aren’t really objective metrics on it. You know it when you see it. I gather you haven’t been inside an excellent private school and seen how the classes are run. IYKYK.

The elite NE boarding schools blow away everyone else on college admissions. Outside of them, it’s about going to the schools and seeing it for yourself.[/quote]

So they are allegedly run much better and yet, still have the same results in academics, extracurriculars, test scores, application process and thus admissions.  
Ok

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They generally have better results, but again — it’s about more than that.

If you really want to understand it, then compare what the top private  schools have to offer vs public schools, from a programmatic and academic standpoint. We’re not going to do the research for you. Compare the course of study from, say, Holton vs Whitman.

Of course, if you don’t care to understand and just want to sit with your assumptions, then continue as you have been and don’t educate yourself at all.[/quote]

I know people who have graduated from both Holton and Whitman with similar outcomes in academics, college admissions and work/life. Nearly all outcomes in the DMV are like this too.
You can't point to any objective metrics but only "feels"
Sounds like you need to educate yourself on what you're really paying for

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Nah, I’m good. I went to public middle school and private high school. I know exactly what I’m paying for and I’m happy about it.

Maybe you could … wait for it … mind your own business!

I know. It’s hard.[/quote]

You are posting on a public forum and telling people to mind their own business? That isn't how it works.  You post, people get to respond.   Don't like it? Don't post. [/quote]

Here’s a metric for you: my kid’s class has 16 kids and 2 full teachers. What’s the student:teacher ratio in public schools? What’s the research on the impact of student:teacher ratio on learning?

My kid has access to full art studios, theater programs, a full slate of subject areas, etc. This is all in lower school. She doesn’t waste time on standardized tests. There’s no subpar curriculum crap, like in MCPS. The upper elementary school and middle school students read full books, rather than excerpts. 
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You like your private school, fine. Now stop to tell folks that send their kids to public school that they don’t value education.  It’s a tired line that everyone knows isn’t true.  By this logic, people who value education homeschool.[/quote]

I never said that. I said that people who knowingly don’t send their kids to the best option they have available to them don’t value education. That “best” option could be public or private.[/quote]

My husband and I are both ivy educated. I went to Harvard. We value education. Our public has many parents who are from Harvard, Yale, Penn and MIT. Our public high school sends many students to top colleges every year. It is just rude to say that parents who send their kids to public don’t value education. That exact snobby attitude is what turns me off about certain privates. [/quote]

Apparently Harvard didn’t teach you reading comprehension. Read the last sentence of my last post.[/quote]

I’m traveling with my family so I skimmed.

We actually did the private school applications and expect acceptances. We will likely stick with public. We like the diversity, proximity to our house and the community. [/quote]

Why did you apply then?[/quote]

Because we can afford it and considered sending our kids. I thought somehow we were doing a disservice to our children for not sending our kids when we had the means to do so easily. After the process, we feel more confident that our children are at the right place. I like that their friends are mostly within 2 miles of our house. We have dinner together. I make them do chores. [/quote]

My daughter goes to private school. She has neighborhood friends. She does chores. We have dinner together. Not sure why you think that can’t happen?[/quote]

What you may not realize is the entitled attitude that your child will pick up in the next decade. That is what I do not want for my child. You may not have it yet since your child is only 6. My children would do well at public or private. Maybe we will change our minds over the next few months and switch to private. It is very important to me for my children be down to earth. [/quote]

I went to private HS. I know entitled people from public and private school.

You are engaging in wild generalizations.[/quote]

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