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[quote=Anonymous]I like the idea of scheduling trips for yourself (and spouse?) and then inviting your son, no pressure.  “Hey, in August I’m thinking of going to Yellowstone and the grand Tetons with your uncle John and Aunt Sue.  If you’d have any interest in joining us, I’d be happy to treat you to airfare.  No pressure though!”

Totally understand your feeling, OP.  I do think this is why many parents over-enable their young adults to live at home and not launch.  If you love parenting for parenting’s sake, if course it is sad when that daily in-person parenting ends.  Kudos to you for not holding your child back from his dreams so you can enjoy him for longer.

Agree with others that going to him does not have to be a burden.  Create reasons to be in town and invite him to things.  Make it VERY clear that you are okay with being in his city for a weekend and doing your own thing most of the time, but happy to bring him bagels on Saturday morning and hang out for an hour or two, or happy to take him and his roommate to a nice dinner in Sunday night, etc.

Also, if you loved parenting, have you ever considered foster parenting?  It sounds like you did a great job with this one.  You could be just the home someone needs.[/quote]

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