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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

It's incredibly frustrating -- post after post, people point out that addiction is a real, legitimate reason for divorce, don't get involved with an addict, it's only a matter of time, once an addict, always an addict.

But this isn't a problem? I don't get it. Seriously.

I appreciate that I might be coming from an emotional standpoint somewhat and I'm not an expert and appreciate the insights and recommendations. I've gone to Al-anon and the message I received for years was RUN if you come across someone who is an addict. I think the saying was "don't collect broken toys."

I am worried about my sister. I am worried about my nieces and nephew. I'm not a terrible person. I'm care about my family and have gone through a lot.[/quote]

A few things:

-DCUM isn't real life. Even if the situations are real, everyone can weigh in anonymously and it's very easy to give advice that you aren't willing or able to live:
-AA and Al Anon are peer run organizations that have doubtless helped untold numbers of people. That said, neither one is based in medicine or science and they are run by people who have a stake in not introducing more addiction into their lives. It's not surprising the advice would be to avoid addicts, but you seem to think it's not safe at any point.
-Alcohol use disorder is very common. It's estimated that 12% of the US population are suffering from it - 1 in 8 adults. And that doesn't take into account people who probably have an unhealthy habit that doesn't meet a clinical definition.

Your sister has apparently dealt with her demons. The best thing you could offer to your sister is support, whether she goes through a hard time or not. Worrying if the other shoe is going to drop will only distance her from you and make you crazy.[/quote]

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