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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel the same way, OP,  but no dog. Always had dogs growing up, but we were rural and the dogs ran free, came home for meals, sleep, and cuddles, plus the adults took care of them. Loved all those dogs.

My child wants a dog badly, he is a serious dog person, has a whole relationship with the dog next door and other dogs in his life. I have been SO tempted, because fulfilling his dream of his own puppy would be so sweet.

We dog-sat for 2 different dogs over the past year and I hated it, even though my DH did most of the work. I liked bringing dog along for my walks in nice weather. But I hated: Anxiety over the kid opening door, for fear dog would run out into city street; poop/pee/vomit accidents in my house; fur; taking up my bed space like a brick; following me around so I nearly trip; walks outside when it's cold/rainy.

I considered I would get over the above if I were bonded to the dog. ... I had a dog in younger adulthood I loved with all my heart. I cleaned his puke gladly when he was ill and forked over $1000 to the vet to figure out why. This dog was the real deal, the dog-love of my life.

I see some of my friends chase that. They keep getting more dogs in hopes of recapturing what they had with that one perfect dog.

I think I can't deal with kids AND dog. There is no room in my heart, the kids take up all of that space for me. I have ADHD though, and am middle-aged, so my capacity for "extra" is much smaller.[/quote]

I hear you, sister. Each additional "extra" is multiplied by what's already taking up space. Sure, you can make the kids walk the dog. But it's something YOU have to make happen. When it's rainy, you have to argue with them to go walk the damn dog. You have to listen to them whine. Sure, DH may take the dog to the vet, but YOU are the one tracking vaccines and making the appointment. It adds to our mental load even if others are doing the physical things. If you need to train the dog, it will be YOU finding a trainer and making sure everyone else is consistent so it works. One more thing to have to nag about.

That's why it has to be something you personally love very much. So this additional burden is for your own sake, not you sacrificing more of yourself for others. [/quote]

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