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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ds visited my parents for multiple trips to Canada when he was age 5 and up. No issues with it, though that’s obviously a little closer. I think most moms today are way over anxious about this stuff sorry. All that said, it’s ultimately your decision and I think it’s reasonable to say no.

And I also think it’s wrong of you to be criticizing your MIL SIL and DH about them wanting to this. As another Pp said it’s from a place of kindness. Why think the worst about them??  Why wouldn’t your response be “guys, I love this idea and I love that you are thinking about how to strengthen your relationships with DS and connect him with his family and heritage. But to be honest I’m a little uncomfortable with him being that far away from home at this age, so sadly it’s a no for now. But can we reconsider in a couple years?”[/quote]
+1. It’s kind of them to ask, and it’s reasonable for OP to say no.

FWIW, one of my aunts took me to visit another aunt in a foreign country when I was a pre-teen, and we had a blast. The government of the country was overthrown in a coup not too long after I visited, so it wasn’t exactly Canada, either. YMMV. [/quote]
+1 If MiL is competent I think it’s a wonderful opportunity for OP’s kids.  8 and 10 aren’t infants. The parents of a good friend of mine takes her grandchildren on a special trip each summer starting when the oldest was 9 or 10. Grandkids and grandparents  have an amazing time, my good friends get couple time alone and work time and all is well.  I would do it if my parents were healthy enough. [/quote]

This. The responses to this thread are bonkers. The language over the top. Elderly, disabled, squeezed in a tiny condo, coups, ambush, collusion…. You all seriously hate your MILs or you are all clinically anxious. Op has every right to say no, but the responses here demonstrate a way deeper pathology than just rational caution. [/quote]
+4 As PP said, it's reasonable to say, "Thanks for the offer but could we reconsider this when the kids are a little older?"  [/quote]

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