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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you can’t afford to outsource help from a night nurse, your dh will have to take one feeding so that you can get a good 4 hour stretch of sleep every night. It’s not really negotiable; you can’t function without it. He can choose which one suits his schedule the best, but he can’t abdicate all responsibility. You also need to alternate sleeping in on weekend mornings. People with newborns need to prioritize sleep or it doesn’t happen.[/quote]

OP here. We can afford a night nurse but neither of us feel comfortable with a stranger in our home.[/quote]

You’re ridiculous. You’re husband is working and you are not. You nap during the day. [/quote]

People who say this are ridiculous. A baby may only nap for a 60-90 minute stretch. It’s not like you can just train yourself to instantly instantly go to sleep the second they nod off, so at best you get maybe 30-45 minutes of poor rest, while listening/on alert for them to wake up.

It’s somewhat twisted that society has convinced people that it’s more important for the man sitting in front of a computer working an office job to be well rested than a woman recovering from a major medical procedure while simultaneously taking care of a newborn.[/quote]

OP here. This is the issue I have. My son eats every 2 hours during the day - 10 feeds total a day. He naps in 1.5 hour increments. After I feed him and get him down to sleep, I have to pump to help with my low supply. Then he often wakes up to be held or needs to be put back to sleep. I can't easily fall asleep. When I'm up at night for feedings, it takes me at least 30 minutes to fall back asleep. [/quote]

Op, your husband kind of sucks but you are also coming across as a bit of a martyr. Drop the pumping and supplement as needed with formula. Your child will benefit far more from a (semi) rested less stressed out parent than the extra breast milk. Also it sounds like you are fortunate enough to have the option of throwing money at the issue so get over your discomfort of having someone in your home and take advantage of it.[/quote]

A night nurse wouldn't matter. OP would still have to get up to nurse and pump every 3 hours. [/quote]

Or she could introduce formula[/quote]

OP here. I do supplement but breastfeeding is important to my husband and I. [/quote]

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