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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Scarcity mindset. And it’s the natural consequence of poverty, not something to look down your nose at them about. You sound really unpleasant. [/quote]

NP. Thank you for identifying this so succinctly, and for noting the problem in the prior post.

There is something deeply unpleasant, moreso than anything described there, in looking down on people who still carry the with the residue of trauma and pain.

Those of us who managed to wash it off, or not be splashed with it despite the circumstances we stood in, have so much to be grateful for. And gratitude does not come with sneering at those who have less.[/quote]

That's a great way of looking at it. I didn't consider my poor, white, lower-class relatives to be all [b]awash in trauma and pain[/b], but I bet they were! [b]I was brought up to think it was stupidity and bad decisions[/b] compounded by being around more of same in the South.[/quote]

Poverty comes with a lot of sh!t, both the literal and figurative kind. That's why people try to make money and climb out of it. It hurts. [/quote]

I grew up with a scarcity mindset and have found what I bolded to be so true.  I suspect OP has her own trauma and pain that she is dealing with.  I've only recently realized in my own family of origin that when someone calls someone out for having poor manners or seems to be "putting on airs" it stems from their trauma and pain.  I think everyone in my family of origin is aware that we didn't learn certain things that financially stable families did, and we feel shame when those differences are evident to others.  It has been a huge revelation and helped me a lot with being patient and understanding.  [/quote]

You don't know me, but I'm sending you all the love I can through the internet.

If we can take this, hold it, and let it go without propagating it, we make the world better. Every little bit of that alchemy makes the world better. Best wishes to you. [/quote]

Thank you. Your unexpected and kind post has me tearing up bit.  1,000% yes on not propagating this.  That is my main focus with my kids.  Bless you.[/quote]

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