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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I went out with some very rich women recently. The ones with the real money looked at the working professionals like they were so middle class. [b]I know some women think they are changing the world but most jobs are unimpressive and no one cares if you work or not[/b]. Of course there are women who do amazing work and making a real difference but most aren’t. The flexible jobs that allow you to be there for your kids are normally nothing special. Perhaps working from home being a lawyer or fed sounds awesome to some women but I wouldn’t want to be stuck checking in daily. That won’t work for our family.[/quote]

I work and always will, but I agree with this wholeheartedly. At least with regards to the kind of jobs that pay the bills I need to pay. I might still work if I was independently wealthy or my DH made an enormous amount of money, but it would be work I truly do for myself -- I'd write books or take up painting or build out a business I really loved but which was not necessarily very lucrative. I have a good job and make decent money plus my job is flexible. It's best case scenario for someone like me, who does in fact have to work in order to give my family the things I want. I did SAHM for a while when kids were young (until my oldest was in full time preschool) and really enjoyed being with my kids. I loved the pace and the quality time and how relaxed it made our family.

When I went back to work I prioritized flexibility and lower stress and got it -- I'm really happy with my job. But I can't really relate to some of the things people write about being a working mom on these boards. I have some friends who have more important and likely fulfilling jobs than I do, but they also travel a lot for work and there's just a lot of demands and I know it's hard because they tell me it is. I admire their work but I wouldn't trade places for anything, not while I have small children at home. I don't think they are bad moms (they are great mothers) or that their kids suffer. I just think they miss out, and they seem to think so too. Yes, they get something else, but it's not a tradeoff I'd make.

There's no way I'd do the job I have if we didn't need the money. Zero chance. And you know, my DH wouldn't either. We wouldn't sit around and do nothing, but we'd be really happy to have more family time and to dedicate ourselves to other things.

Work is just not interesting or rewarding, other than financially, about 99.999999% of the time. And it's okay to admit that. Raising kids is rewarding even though you don't get paid. That's the difference.[/quote]

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