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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Date A. Obviously. The children can be there, and can start the grieving and healing process sooner once the funeral is over.

[b]I don’t know what the hell reason could justify siblings being “not available” for their sibling’s funeral,[/b] but whatever it is is not good enough to wait. If it’s health related, that’s an oh well.[/quote]

Maybe one of them has an international business trip that "can't be rescheduled" and the other one has a child with scheduled surgery?[/quote]

Read the first post.  They are all retired and all their children are grown and out of the home.[/quote]

My point was that there can be a variety of reasons why people are unavailable, including the ones OP has.

Let's go with:
1. Booked an international trip of a lifetime that is nonrefundable.
2. Has a child with a commitment and the person committed to providing childcare.
3.  Has a child with a serious medical condition and needs to be with them for a procedure.
4.  Has been planning a huge charity event for a year that is going to occur on that date.

I can imagine many reasons....[/quote]

....none of this would keep me from attending the funeral of one of my parents if the relationship had been a good one. [/quote]

+1. “Trip of a lifetime” be damned. There’s no “commitment” a child can make that is more important—and no, travel soccer or marching band competition doesn’t count. If you have a child having a medical procedure, dad can be there while mom goes to funeral. CHARITY EVENT? You’ve got to be effing kidding me.[/quote]

Has your child ever had surgery?  I'm guessing no. No one who has been through it takes it so casually.  [/quote]

Yes. My child also has two parents. Any other questions? [/quote]

So one of you goes to the hospital and one goes to work?  Weird.[/quote]

It’s called one parent takes leave to be with the kid in the hospital, the other takes leave to go to the funeral of their parent. If you can’t wrap your head around that, you’re either a crap parent, a crap child, or both.[/quote]

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