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[quote=Anonymous]I was you except I did decide to have a third in my late 30s (age 38) with an age gap. I had my other 2 babies at 30 and 33, so the older two were 5.5 and 8 when my third was born. I was a bit disappointed at first about having a gap (some fertility issues caused it to take longer than planned). But you know what, the gap has been a blessing.

The older two are in elementary school so we aren’t paying for preschool. We have a nanny and she can help with the early release and random school holidays so it’s sort of scales of economy as far as childcare goes. My older kids are pretty independent so it’s not like the stress of a toddler and a baby (I found having 2 kids 2.5 years apart more stressful than adding a third 5 years later). It’s put a damper on travel since we don’t find it enjoyable going places with a young toddler, but that is temporary. Oh and the older 2 absolutely love the youngest. He has brought us so much joy and his big siblings love making him laugh. I’ve loved watching the relationships between my 3 and how my older 2 have matured from the experience.

If you think you want a third, don’t close the door on that. My heart kept telling me I wasn’t done and now I’m so glad I listened to that. But I think you should reconsider the no age gap and not having a baby in your late 30s thing. It’s been fine. Pregnancy at 38 was just as rough as pregnancy in my early 30s (I have easy-ish deliveries, but miserable pregnancies). It’s not like you’re considering a baby at 45.

3 kids is a lot of logistics, but if you’re UMC and willing to lower standards about some things (your house isn’t going to be immaculate at all times and your free time will be taken up with various kid activities l), then I say go for it![/quote]

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