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[quote=Anonymous]Just to offer a different perspective as a healthcare provider who works with older adults: it has been a lonely time for older adults in the last couple of years.  That doesn’t mean you need to acquiesce to their requests, but maybe try to understand where they are coming from.
Remember the way you treat your parents and other older relatives is being observed by your kids. They are watching and learning from you. 
Consider what kind of interaction you will want with your kids when you are your parents’ age. Try to model it, or remember to adjust your expectations in 20-30 years.

Consider suggesting a reduced frequency or a limited timeframe. But it is not a bad thing that they want to spend time with you and your family. They see the ends of their lives happening in the next 10-20 years. It is not unreasonable to want to spend time with people they care about it. Maybe their expectations are unrealistic due to your other obligations, so let them know what works for you. I am just saying that asking for gifts of time shouldn’t be viewed as manipulative or selfish.[/quote]

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