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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. I realize this is going to be hard for the DCUM girl boss and jaded beta-male sets to acknowledge, but please consider that mating strategies are hardwired and for most women having a spouse in the domestic sphere all day--even if they are providing for the family by 21 c standards--is going to be a huge turn off. You can blast me for being sexist or un-PC or whatever, but it's a hallow moral victory if the marriage is ruined. Going to the office a few days a week is not a big ask.  Obviously this doesn't apply to couples who agreed to this on their own terms, but for a lot of women having their spouse around at home all day is going to be unattractive and it's unrealistic to expect the OP to just turn that switch off when there is a reasonable middle ground here.  [/quote]

I’m as feminist as they come, but I agree. [/quote]

Going to an “office” doesn’t sound alpha at all.
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Historically, lots of married couples worked together in a small home industry or farm.  And even if there was a room set aside as an "office," it was in the same house.  Hunters didn't go out hunting every single day; they likely hung around the cave a fair amount. I'm not sure how something that's such a modern development can be hard-wired.  [/quote]

That's true but division of labor was gendered--more equally valued than it is today, but there was definitely women's work and men's work. In this situation the OP is doing the paid and domestic labor while seeing DH at home just doing the paid labor in a very casual way. The optics are a turn off for her. Also, DH and the OP are not working together in a joint family business which is another dynamic entirely.[/quote]

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