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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guy here. No doubt, this guy's friends think this is weird and uncomfortable. Is there no one in his life who can tell it to him straight -- that he needs to grow up, be a parent to this baby, be responsible?

Also, gambling can be very addictive, and adding the socializing of watching sports with friends gives it a veneer of healthy socializing. But it is obviously not healthy.

The guy needs a wake up call. How embarrassing and stupid to lose your family because you wanted to watch people play sports all day.[/quote]

OP, I truly hope you're still coming back to this thread and read the post above.

This guy is spot on. Most PPs here are glossing right over the big red flag that you mentioned -- and I think you're glossing over it yourself. It's not the sports, OP. It's the gambling on sports.

Listen to the PP above when he says, and I'm going to repeat it so you hear it loud and clear: "Watching sports with friends gives it a veneer of healthy socializing. But it is obviously not healthy."

The gambling may be out of hand. Even if you yourself regularly handle the family finances, your DH, if he's a serious gambler and/or has a gambling problem, can easily find ways to hide money, hide losses, from you. The number of hours your DH spends "watching sports" is beyond excessive even for a big sports fan. It's not really the sports that draw him, though he likely believes that's the case. It's the need to gamble on sports. And he has friends who seem to enable it, since you say they also gamble on games.

As the guy above also rightly notes: Is there NO friend or relative in his life who can give your DH a mental slap into reality? No best friend (who isn't in the sports circle of guys)? No brother or other relative? No peer? This may need to come from another man who is his same age and stage in life. Has he anyone you trust enough to go to with this, tell them what you told us here (I'd have them read your post) and say, DH needs someone who is not you (OP) point this out and tell him he may have a problem that will cost him his marriage and his child?

Some people often will not or cannot hear their spouse any more. Your DH does not hear or see you any more. You need some outside help. And your DH has a problem. He may not be a full-blown gambling addict (yet) but it's appalling to me that this whole thread has mostly ignored the red flags about his gambling as part of the sports-watching. [/quote]

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