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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I'd let it get sent back unclaimed. Meaning, don't open the door for the letter carrier, you will get a second notice (mailed, not brought by the carrier) and then it will be returned 'unclaimed' to the sender.[/quote]

Why, so OP can annoy her mom? You people who think this is an emotional war to the death between OP and her mom are missing the point. OP needs to act in her own interest, and she also needs to stop caring whether her mom is hurt or gloating. If mom is suing OP, OP is going to find out when she gets served, and ignoring a letter isn't going to change that. If the letter is an anodyne "we miss our grandkids," then OP can just not respond.[/quote]

The OP does not want mail from the mother and does not have to accept it![/quote]

Yes, we know you love the drama. But OP needs to consider her own interests, and that's probably knowing what's in the letter. She mentioned her DH was previewing the voicemails etc--he can read this letter for her.[/quote]

She. Doesn't. Want. It.  What part of that is confusing for you?[/quote]

Your bad advice is what's confusing. Why would you want OP to be blindsided by getting served when she's out with her friends.[/quote]

Exactly. Even if OP’s mom has literally zero basis for a legal claim, that doesn’t mean she can’t file suit against OP. Frivolous claims are made all the time in courts. [b]It’s in OP’s interest to know if that is where this is headed. It would also be useful for OP to know if her mom is escalating and threatening to go to OP’s employer or CPS or something like that. [/b][/quote]

NP. Let's say the letter says "I'm contacting CPS" or "I'm suing you." How does OP knowing that in advance help? Because a) it might not be true; it's just as likely that the mom is trying to upset op and get a response from her and b) if it is true, it's not like having a letter about it in advance will prevent it from happening.

Personally, I would refuse the letter. If OP is worried about a lawsuit or bogus CPS calls, she can low key start looking for lawyers without contacting her mom.[/quote]

Exactly. It doesn't sound like OP's mother is all that rational or reasonable, so I'm not sure why anyone is supposed to take her smoke signals as gospel truth.

A lot of people -- especially ones with unstable relationships -- threaten to sue, or call the police, or call CPS, but then don't. And they are also more prone to doing things out of left field without giving you warning. I just don't see how knowing what her mother wants to tell her at this point really advances OP's mental health at all.

If she gets officially served, then she gets served, and she knows where things actually stand. If her mother wants to use her like an emotional toilet to take a dump in but can't be trusted to be reliable about what she says, then what's the upside to getting crapped on and stressing out more?

Ignore. Go live your best life, OP. Be at peace. [/quote]

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