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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]WTH? Open the letter, be an adult.[/quote]

The sender is manipulating them.

They are trying to be an adult by maintaining boundaries.
The sender is looking for a way to get a response (breaking through boundaries).

They are not immature or crazy. They are in an emotional chess game.

AGAIN, I think you should receive the letter and ignore the contents, but get a friend to manage the letter. They should read and/or burn or both.

Not your circus. Not your monkeys.[/quote]

It's not monkeys.  It's her parents!   And we still have no idea why OP has gone to this extreme[/quote]

The reason why she cut off her parents is irrelevant to this thread. The question was how to handle a certified letter. 
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DP. Actually the reason is relevant. Is OP rationally dealing with years of abuse, or is she one of DCUM’s drama-seeking children who is probably at least partly to blame for the frost?[/quote]

NP. I think you are confused. OP is the one who cut her mother off. She is avoiding all contact, and therefore all drama. It's her mom who is looking for drama by desperately trying to provoke a reaction with a certified letter.
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You’re confused. OP cutting her mother off for no obvious reason (at least that she deigns to tell us) IS the drama. Grandma probably just wants to see her grandkids. This certified letter, if it’s not an attempt to reconnect, may threaten a lawsuit to see the grandkids. [/quote]

People don’t do this for no reason. It’s not easy, and it’s not fun to cut someone off, especially someone society expects you to respect and love. It’s a myth, a DCUM legend, that people cut off parents for no reason. These people don’t exist. Maybe you wouldn’t do the same thing in their position. Maybe they had other options. Maybe they were at the end of their rope and something small pushed them to take drastic measures. But there’s always something, and it’s usually a long list of bad behavior involved. Often there’s a history of abuse. Sometimes there’s untreated mental illness. There’s usually a history of warnings, attempts to set boundaries and the boundaries not being respected. It’s never for no reason. [/quote]

Yes, some people have very good reason to cut off a parent. But, as we see on DCUM on a daily basis, others are immature or drama addicts and cut people off for minor reasons. These latter are themselves the problem.

Your speculation is useless. We don’t know which OP is, and OP isn’t telling us. Although usually when there’s clear abuse, the OP will say so. That isn’t the case here. [/quote]

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