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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She doesn’t like that you follow her but doesn’t have the balls to block you. [/quote]

This. She isn't "embarrassed" to be posting on FB, as there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Trying to start awkwardly start conversations in person about someone's feed, though....[/quote]

Yes, God forbid this woman try to connect with her child's partner. /s

Why be so judgmental of someone trying to be nice?[/quote]

NP. Why can’t she just ask what she’s been up to, like a normal person? I agree that it’s odd to bring up multiple things “you saw she had been doing” from fb posts.[/quote]

There is more than one way to start a conversation.[/quote]

Try mentioning it once. It wasn't received well. OP then needs to try a new way to connect. I really hate when people I felt obligated to accept as FB friends mentions my feed.

I am guessing this poster who is defending OP is, actually, the OP.  [/quote]

I am not the OP,  I don't even have a daughter in law.  But I do hire a lot of people and I gotta  say, sorry,  there are many millennials that really need  to get a grip. Thankfully, not  ALL, but many of you all are having so much trouble navigating interactions, which should  be pretty easy. You can't really be in the gestalt of TikTok and IG culture and monetizing,  (regardless of whether you are on the producing end or viewing end) where people literally make  money just  dressing their kids in all the same outfits with a Harry Style's single playing in the background,   or by  redoing everything in their house all the time in shiplap- and then have a big problem and freak out when your mother in law asks," I love little Piper Leif's little wool coat that I saw on your post." Come on, grow the F up.

You all live on each other's social media despite protestations otherwise. We all  see it. If you look UP every once in awhile, you guys might remember how to talk to people.  :roll: [/quote]

I think what you are not understanding is that OP was the one focusing the conversation on social media. Instead of starting up a natural conversation she apparently kept referencing posts online, despite noticing that it made dil cringe. In general, it is best to avoid conversation that you can tell us making the other person uncomfortable. And, while there is no “rule” that you can’t reference fb posts an entire conversation structured around the other persons online posts is awkward. [/quote]

Here's what everyone didn't get. MIL is trying to actually talk to her DIL, which apparently is pretty hard.  So, she brought  up things she can talk to her about. It's clear they don't have a relationship where this DIL talks about her life with this crew, she just comes over under obligation. So here's MIL trying to talk about  hiking or her friends, trying to find to find something that is interesting to DIL. Seeing that  none of the topics were cringeworthy, and MIL said things like  "Hey, Amber, that was a tough hike last Saturday,  good for you. It makes me look lazy! Lol!" Or, that was a fun party, are these friends from work?"

I can see there would be a problem if MIL said " Wow,  you looked pretty drunk Sat night, Amber." Or, I notice that guy in all these pictures always touching you..." then, yes, that's a problem.  But we know this isn't about FB or any social media. This is an awkward, insecure, introverted girl who has an issue  having any conversation with people.  I'm on Team MIL. Sorry. She sounds like  she's trying, at least. There's plenty of MILs that are complaint-worthy all over DCUM. She's finding common ground, that's it. And, no, I again, am not  OP.  I really have taken the time to read *most* of the responses and they are pretty disheartening,  and quite sad.  [/quote]

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