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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]An in that context, it would feel pretty weird if someone I didn't know very well would greet me with something like "oh I saw you had a nice vacation in Florida [when I was there for a friend's bachelorette]" or "wow seems like you had a great time at that wedding [of people this person doesn't know at all]." Like I get there is nothing wrong with them having seen those posts and to remember them later, but it would feel jarring and strange to have it brought up months later as though it was a significant thing in my life. When in reality, the stuff I posted on Facebook was rarely the most important stuff going on with me -- it was just the stuff I happened to do with people who posted about it to Facebook. Like being a guest at a wedding or attending someone's baby shower is fun but generally not a major highlight of my year. So being asked about it later as though it was equal to getting engaged or having a baby felt very odd.[/b]

Let's understand that it's perfectly ok to talk to someone about an event or experience  they had,  even a year ago. Yes, it is, dear.

It's ok to reference a picture or event people posted about. There's no secret club, no "what is said on FB, stays  on FB."  You are all mature adults,  yes adults,  and your parents are adults.  [b]You are  now in the adult world. [/b]Not high school. [/quote]

All adults in your life are not equal. You have immediate family, extended family, DH’s family, HS/college friends, work friends, mom friends, neighbors, acquaintances, BFFs. There are different topics, societal norms, and boundaries around those different relationships. IRL you wouldn’t be sharing the same info with every adult. It’s hard to target info for appropriate groups on FB so people need to gauge what is relevant to them.

For example, when my neighbor posts about a funny college experience to reminisce with college friends it’d be a little weird for me to bring it up with them months later out of context. But if my neighbor posted something funny that happened at salon where we both get our hair done, it wouldn’t be weird at all.

Basically, OP needs to stay in her lane. 
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Then learn how to group your friend list. It's that simple. Both FB and IG have these resources. Secondarily, just about everything you post has the potential to be public. Ask ANY HR personnel. Ask me, I can find anything! Lastly,  use your networks as a public newspaper,  not  your therapy  journal. That's just common sense.

This is just ridiculous.[/quote]

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