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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We always talk to our HS Senior about making safe choices when they go out, calling us, using Uber, etc. Well they recently announced to us that we can stop b/c they don't drink and are always the designated driver for their friends. Don't get me wrong, DH and I are not disappointed, and if this is ultimately their lifestyle choice we support it 100%, but we are concerned DC is going to go to college and decide to drink with 0 experience - which could be dangerous. [/quote]

This is a legitimate concern.  Our daughter’s college roommate was a skinny little thing who never drank before college and once she got there she would get herself absolutely hammered and our daughter would have to take care of her.  Overly protective parents in high school really do their kids a disservice.  [/quote]

this is one of the judgy-est threads I’ve read on dcum and that is saying a lot. plenty of teens don’t drink in HS and college and it isn’t due to overprotective parents. my own HS aged teens and their friends don’t drink and don’t go to parties, because that is their social “scene.” They watch movies, get food, hang out and play poker or whatever. If that’s what teens feel most comfortable doing, should we push them to chug a beer and go to a party?? geez[/quote]

yes but again you're talking about HS kids. Neither of my kids ever went to a party in HS and are in the "smart kid" group, lots of movies, coffee dates, etc. Never into the party, popular kid scene. The minute they walk onto campus though, they are hit with nonstop partying, drinking, smoking (and worse). Just FYI.  I have posted on this board about this before and still people just have their heads in the sand. Most of my kids friends did not drink in high school either and ALOT of them went somewhat crazy with drinking, drugs and sex once they got to school. Thankfully, they eventually do settle down but that first year is somewhat of a free for all.  Believe me or don't.[/quote]

But my kid did not want to walk into the scene you are describing, so did her homework in advance. Your kids either wanted an environment like this, did not care, did no research in advance or chose their college based upon ranking instead of fit). My kid ruled out schools where kids were pressured to party and there were few alternatives on the weekend. At 21, she started drinking occasionally (like wine at a nice restaurant or senior week events). That was her choice, not mine.  We talked about her preferences at her initiation. Believe me or don’t.[/quote]

My kids went to a top 30 school, it’s not like they are at a “party school”. Just FYI. They were quite surprised at what they found was typical even among the top schools. [/quote]

So what does unigo say about it? [/quote]

Majority says only drink on weekends but a fair amount also include some drinking every night. My kid has not seen drinking every night, it’s really Thursday to Saturday mostly but those kids go hard on those days. [/quote]

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