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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an outlier here. I think if you put stuff up on Facebook,[b] it’s not weird for somebody to comment on it.[/b] You put your life out there on social media to show off, share or what have you then it’s fair game for somebody to mention it.

In OP’s case just now know not to mention it again. Your DIL wants/doesn’t want the attention and that’s very immature. If your daughter-in-law does not want you seeing her posts without blocking you, she can always put you on the list were you don’t see her posts, but you remain friends.  [/quote]

It's not weird AT THE TIME. It's weird to bring it up later and go down list of things someone did three months ago.[/quote]

NP but I agree that timing is what makes it feel strange. I don't do Facebook anymore but when I did, I posted sporadically. I'd go weeks or months without posting or even looking at it much, but then I'd go to a wedding or bachelorette party and get notifications of a bunch of photo tags and think "oh I'll post some photos too in case anyone wants to see them" and then maybe get in the habit of posting a little, and then lose interest and stop again.

An in that context, it would feel pretty weird if someone I didn't know very well would greet me with something like "oh I saw you had a nice vacation in Florida [when I was there for a friend's bachelorette]" or "wow seems like you had a great time at that wedding [of people this person doesn't know at all]." Like I get there is nothing wrong with them having seen those posts and to remember them later, but it would feel jarring and strange to have it brought up months later as though it was a significant thing in my life. When in reality, the stuff I posted on Facebook was rarely the most important stuff going on with me -- it was just the stuff I happened to do with people who posted about it to Facebook. Like being a guest at a wedding or attending someone's baby shower is fun but generally not a major highlight of my year. So being asked about it later as though it was equal to getting engaged or having a baby felt very odd.

Anyway, this is one of many reasons I just gave up on Facebook. I'm sure there's a way to use it where it isn't weird in this way but I think it just wasn't for me. Maybe OP's DIL is in the same boat and has a weird relationship with Facebook and therefore doesn't enjoy being asked about the random stuff she posts there or the random photos she's tagged in.[/quote]

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