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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in a marriage with separate finances now. We kind of wound up like this after having irreconcilable differences over budgets.

It's terrible for the marriage. Shared goals are nearly impossible. Even simple things like going out for dinner, filling the car with gas, etc. can lead to one feeling like they are being taken advantage of.

Unless we can figure out a way to recombine finances we'll likely divorce at some point.

Would not recommend.[/quote]

I’m in a marriage with separate finances and we have no problem at all agreeing on shared goals and who should pay for what.

Separate finances are the symptom, not the cause, of your marital problems.[/quote]

We had separate finances for years out of laziness. I owned my condo when we married and I paid the condo fees and taxes from my account. We didn’t keep careful track of who paid for other things. We moved when our older DD was almost 3 (younger DD wasn’t born yet). At that point my DH had a much higher paying job than I did (previously I had while he was in graduate school). The daycare payments and other expenses were slowly depleting my account (like I was losing $50’or so a month) while DH’s account was growing a lot. It stressed me out so, at that point, we combined finances. We’d probably been married close to 10 years but just hadn’t needed to combine before. We do need to meet with a financial planner to figure out some combined goals. For instance, he just saves extra money in the bank, whereas I used to invest most my “extra” money. I don’t feel right investing without his buy-in, but I also don’t like having large amounts of money sitting in a bank account instead of investing it. 
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