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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The least of your worries is how to get him into private school.

I can’t speak for other private schools but at my private school there’s a strong sense of parent involvement in the school. Unfortunately that means parents have flexible jobs, or one has a stay at home mom, or there is a grandparent or a nanny willing to pick up the slack. Even the parents with high flying jobs get involved. At least at the pre k or kindergarten level the school wants to see that parents will be part of the community. Yes understandably to be able do that smacks of privilege, but that’s why it’s elite private school.

You may want to think right now about how working long hours may not give you the flexibility that private schools are looking from its parents. [/quote]

+1 to the first part. Spend your money on a nanny and a good half-day preK3 program. He’s struggling right now, so if you have the funds - use them to provide a nurturing environment.

As for the second part of this statement, just wow. This is so out of touch and elitist. OP’s child’s application is not going to suffer because she and her husband work long hours at what I’m sure are at least somewhat prestigious jobs. And involvement like coming into the classroom to read a book occasionally or for conferences or even being on the spring gala auction committee after a handful of years at the school is very different from leaving work at 4 pm every day to get your child from daycare. Even lost-COVID there are many jobs that do not allow (maybe not explicitly but optically) for you to leave every day at 4 for daycare pick up. OP is in NYC not Seattle. [/quote]

Yes but OP is thinking of hiring a nanny to do this and many of us are agreeing that is a good idea. I also cut my hours to pick my kid up early but if I couldn’t have I would have had some one else do it. He was doing well with a nanny before and now is not doing well- that’s so much more important to figure out than preschool applications.[/quote]

I agreed with the first part of the statement, so no argument there. What I don’t agree with is the statement that schools look for parents who can be heavily involved. And as for the 4 pm thing - it’s not realistic if you work at Goldman Sachs or Morgan Stanley or Apollo or Latham or any number of NYC firms. Your flexing your schedule to accommodate a 4 pm schedule in DC is just not possible for many working moms in NYC. The culture is not accepting of that and if OP is working at one of these places and does this daily she will lose her job. My point is that the comment is out of touch and not applicable to NYC work culture. Why do you think the OP hasn’t done this yet? Probably because she can’t. [/quote]

PP above yours is in a loser job or is one of the useless c suite.  Has no idea what work is.  As someone with a big job, the biggest joke on women is reduced hours.  [/quote]

I’m the loser PP you are referring to. I’m happy with my choices but my point was that this child might benefit from being home earlier in a quiet environment, which can be with a nanny. I think the parental involvement thing is BS but I’m not in NYC so I don’t really know, maybe it’s different there. My main point is that this kid is clearly having a hard time and I’d focus on that and not what preschool he will get into.[/quote]

I’m the person PP was quoting so weird you responded. Do you do this often? Probably not a surprise, but I am in NYC and that’s why I was saying that OP probably doesn’t have the flexibility that someone working at a firm in a second tier city might have. OP probably either wants or needs to keep her job so suggestions about her flexing although well-intentioned won’t fly. She needs to focus on finding a nanny and moving to a shorter preschool day instead of putting her energy into getting her child into Dwight or Horace Mann. You still have multiple years before K, OP. Set your kid up for success before throwing him into the deep end at an elite institution that will probably have less compassion than your daycare. [/quote]

Look, I’m a FT WOHM too, but at some point you can’t outsource all your parenting. You have to actually be there for your kid.

I lived and worked in NYC for nearly a decade and am happy to now be in a “second tier city” in a flexible job that allows me to pick my children up from their private school 3-4x a week, and volunteer usually once a month. Frankly, I would think someone who boasted about their big “first tier city” job necessitating leaving their toddler away from a family member for 11 hours a day is just pathetic. Yes nannies are great (ours has been with us for 7 years) but does not replace time with a parent, or maybe a grandparent.[/quote]

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