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[quote=Anonymous]Are you engaged? I ask because my husband and I were married 2 years after we met. If I was your girlfriend, I might be prioritizing my dad too, 3 years is a long time to wait for a proposal. I also wouldn’t want to be told I’m selfish or be with a guy who got angry and then refused to talk to me. I understand why she’s picking her dad.

That being said, you do need to point out to her that your family doesn’t live closer so she’s offering something she can’t do. Why didn’t you say that?
To people who say if she’s not willing to do what you want, she never will be, that’s not really fair. I’m happy to wipe my kids’ butts or noses, not so happy to do it for an adult. A baby isn’t an object, you don’t haul it anywhere and not all families make it easy or enjoyable to bring a baby or kid to their house.

Think about it this way, nobody would invite their neighbors to go poop in their yard to prove to their spouse that yes, they would be great with a dog because see, loo, they’ll happily pick up their neighbors’ poop. 
Some things you can’t know until you’ll get there.

As others have said, you are the only one who can decide if you want to keep the girlfriend. If you do, know that old people tend to be cranky around kids. Odds are good that once you two do have a baby, *she* won’t want to spend Christmas with Dad, too much stuff to bring, too much stuff to bring home, nobody sleeps well due to excitement, Dad’s house is too cold or too hot, Dad wants to watch stuff she’d prefer the kid not be exposed to, Dad drinks too much, lots of things can happen that make Christmas with Pops not much fun with the kids. That can happen on your side of the family too, op.  
  
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