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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I (32F) hosted Thanksgiving yesterday for my dad's side of the family and not a single person offered to bring something. I am married and have two small kids ages 4 and 1.

Attendees included:
-My dad and his girlfriend (late 60s)
-My brother and his girlfriend (both 28)
-My other brother and his girlfriend (29/20)
-My uncle and his wife (early 60s)

My DH is great and tried his best to keep the kids entertained while I cooked all day. When everyone say down for the meal, people kept needing really specific things (garlic salt, a pitcher for water, hot sauce, cinnamon) so I'd repeatedly have to get up and go to the kitchen just as I was about to finally take my first bite every time to the point that I felt like it was a joke or an episode of "What Would You Do". At one point, I went in the kitchen to laugh so I didn't cry. Did no one notice I'm the only person of the bunch with small kids AND the only person that did any preparations, cooking, or clean up (DH helped with clean up)? Even when I was trying to clean up, my 4yo was hanging on my legs asking me to play Candyland with her. I finally said "DD, go ask your uncles or Papa to play with you" so she did and they said there was an awkward silence followed by one "maybe later".

I guess I'm just shocked. Maybe I should have delegated and said X can you bring Y, but I felt like the mistreated help and it's still bothering me today.[/quote]

Your dad.  Your uncle.  Your 2 brothers.     See a pattern?

And no one asked about bringing anything (pie, wine, flower arrangement, cheese plate)?

This really goes with the whole "women are stucking doing Thanksgiving" theme that I am seeing on here today.       I have to think that your mom, an aunt, and 2 sisters would have all reached out.  You have now BTDT.   Next year, if you host, assign assign assign.
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I'm so dumb, I read that whole other post and replies and didn't even catch the pattern in this one but you are right.  [/quote]

NP here. My guess is that the girlfriends all asked if they should bring something and their boyfriends all reassured them the answer was no, thwt you were happy to do it all.[/quote]

Even if I was told that as the girlfriend I would still at least bring flowers or wine.  I would say no Jack actually you always bring a bottle of wine (with inward concern my 20-something boyfriend has no manners).[/quote]

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