Reply to Is is ok for a kid to not date (or interact with) the opposite sex until college?

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "Is is ok for a kid to not date (or interact with) the opposite sex until college?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I agree with the posters who have said that not dating isn’t a big deal, but forming friendships and learning to work with boys in a team and one on one setting is very important. I went to public high school and then went to a predominantly male university (65% men). I was also in a sorority there. The girls who went to all girls schools were amazing individuals, but tended to be awkward around the boys and were not as comfortable working on group projects with them.

I didn’t date or kiss anyone until college. I had no brothers or male cousins. I am cringing at the thought of how I would have fared in college both in class and socially without the benefit of many years of group and partner work in school and extracurriculars and casual and close friendships in school.

Men and women are different, obviously, that is why single gender schools exist at all. The natural progression that we want for our college age daughters is to form a friendship that then develops into a romantic relationship. It makes sense that you would want your daughter to practice forming male friendships to develop judgment and experience on dating preferences.

One last comment - maybe this was just at my male dominated school, but there was a phenomenon every year where the upper class men would befriend freshmen women, be super helpful, and immediately try to date them. I had a couple of friends who found themselves in a relationship the first week of school because they were so flattered and inexperienced about the nuance between friendship and dating. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics