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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another sibling is not always the blessing to the first child that many here are presuming. My brother was firstborn and I wish he’d been an only, since he abused me for our entire childhood and the abuse continued at every family gathering until I finally estranged myself from him 20+ years ago. When we were little it was both beatings and emotional/verbal, when we were older it was all emotional/verbal. Oh, he also sex trafficked me when we were teenagers by promising to pay $100 to whichever of his friends could F*** me first and one of them date raped me at a party in high school when I was only 14, it’s how I lost my virginity.

I’m a former prosecutor and have seen even worse horror stories of sibling abuse between children and adults. Siblings are not always a blessing to one another and not always close after mom and dad have passed. I currently work in home care and have done so for nearly a decade I have seen really ugly stuff between siblings fighting over who takes care of parents and who gets what of the inheritance.

Only children can be perfectly okay people if they have loving parents. There is plenty of opportunity to learn all the necessary interpersonal relationship skills in daycare, school, camp, sports, etc.  [/quote]

For every horror story there are people who love their siblings and are close. In fact one study found that 2/3 of siblings considered one of their siblings one of their closest friend!  
 Don't let fear keep you from having a second if you want one!

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2014/11/27/366789136/your-adult-siblings-may-be-the-secret-to-a-long-happy-life

here is the actual article - https://academic.oup.com/sf/article/71/1/85/2233340  it's a little dated but I'm sure a literature search can find a more recent article on the benefits for siblings. :)

That being said - do it for you and make sure you have enough resources! [/quote]

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