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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You all have so many excuses. Your house is small and messy or fussy and neat…kids don’t care about that! You have a full time job and other children…so do most people! Typically when you’re friends w someone, sometimes you invite them to do something and sometimes they invite you. If you want your kids to have friends, you have to as their parent teach them how to do it. They invite a friend over, then the friend invites them. Someone said you don’t prioritize 3rd grader play dates…fine, but do you care that you’re not helping your 3rd grader learn how to be a nice friend that others will want to maintain a friendship w?

If you host it doesn’t have to be at your house. But you should at least show some interest in getting together w the other kid. Suggest that they meet up at a playground so you can take your other kids. Show some kind of interest in furthering the relationship instead of just blowing it off because you’re busy. Everyone’s busy. Or your house isn’t ideally suited to hosting…the kids just like playing together and they can do that anywhere.[/quote]

Did you grow up like this? I don’t recall parents bending over backwards carting kids around to play dates all the time.  And I had plenty of friends.  My school friends I saw at school and socialized there, plus the aftercare.  My sports friends I saw at sports.  My neighborhood friends would knock on door and I’d do the same if we were home and bored.  No was having mom scheduled and planned out play dates on the regular.  [/quote]

The neighborhood I lived in was filled with SAHM and latchkey kids. We didn't need play dates because we got off the bus, went home and had a snack, and went out and played. If we were going to a friends house that wasn't in our neighborhood, we rode the bus home with that friend but that only happened after the parents called each other. Those were arranged.

We live in a neighborhood where more parents are working and kids are at aftercare. Some kids have activities right after school. DS is 10 and is at the stage where he gets home and will go over to a friends hose who he know is home and they play outside. We both work, but DH has been at home since COVID. we have always made sure that one of us was home after school so DS could come home. But his friends live further away then he could walk so yes, we prearranged kids coming over. And we arrange for kids coming over on the weekends. The difference is that DS asks me to text the parents instead of calling on the phone because that is what we have always done.

Maybe we need to get the phone numbers for kids families and have DS call, it would be a good skill for him to gain. [/quote]

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