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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter and friends had a group of 6 from early elementary.  In 6th grade, one of the girls (XX) started a pattern of behavior where she would claim that the others were being mean to her in this way or that and then generally ask to be driven home. As part of this, she made up all sorts of tall tales: so and so did this, said this, etc.  We (the other parents) took her word very seriously when this started and we had many a conversation with our own kids to "be nice to XX" "be sensitive to her" etc.  However, over time things continued to escalate and XX's stories got increasingly grandiose.  We (the parents) started asking our kids separately "tell me exactly what happened" and we realized that our stories jived while XX's did not. In fact, they were told for the sake of being dramatic and then rescued by her parents.  For whatever reason, at that developmental stage this girl THRIVED on drama and then built up a behavioral pattern where she would have her parents swoop in and rescue her.  Her parents always took her word for it and viewed her completely as the victim.

It's now 8th grade and this girl has just naturally left the group.  She's matured and is in a good place within a different group of kids.

I bring this up because sometimes it's not the group that's at fault but the kid who is being excluded is making herself toxic to the group.  No one wants to be friends with a kid who is always playing the victim or injecting drama into a friend group.  In my experience, when a friend group shifts its just as[b] likely to because of the kids being excluded as[/b] it is because of those left in the group.  [/quote]

I don't think actual statistics would support this.  Sounds like you got in the path of a sociopath in training.
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