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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yikes. I have a never-married, no kids sitter who relies a lot on my family for emotional and some financial support. I admit there are times I’d rather spend a holiday with just DH and the kids but my sister has nobody else. And she gets so much joy out of hanging with my kids, even now as tweens. I can relate to OP but I also think you sound mean OP. Put yourself in her shoes.

And spinster?! Come on. Any of us could have ended up there. [/quote]
DP,

Give me a break . I have lots of friends in their 40’s and 50’s who have never married and do not have kids. Most have thriving careers, busy jobs, Some Are retired early and most are  very active in various organizations,  clubs, and have hobbies. Right now a group of them are traveling around the world together. having fun so everybody who has never married or doesn’t have kids is not sitting up sucking off the teat of their family is the only focus of their life enjoyment.
These people need to grow up and get a life.[/quote]

“ sucking off the teat of their family”

What an absolutely weird way to discuss family spending time together.[/quote]

NP. Come on. We all know the difference between single/child-free people who contribute to family gatherings and those who have demands and expectations but never host, never recognize that people need time with the other side of the family, people want to have quiet holidays at home or travel during holidays, etc. I know a few people who basically only engage with family when it’s time not not feel alone at the holidays—take, no give. Expect/demand, no understanding or self-reliance.[/quote]

Yes, they are "less-than." But they're still family. Would you really expect the single SIL to host OP and her DH and their kids in, what, her apartment? SIL is trying to get a dose of family time by being at OP's house. She doesn't have much to offer OP in return. OP should be glad she has something nourishing to offer her single SIL.[/quote]

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