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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are dh’s parents doing for the holidays?[/quote]

Prob enforcing boundaries they’ve previously set around SIL’s freeloading ways [/quote]

How do you define "freeloading"?  I think my definition is very different....

(Also, did you even read what OP said about the dynamic between SIL and the parents?)[/quote]

She doesn’t ask, she tells her brother and OP when she wants to show up. OP doesn’t make mention of SIL offering to grab pizza one night, or pick up bagels and juice for one breakfast (SIL has the cash to stay in a hotel so she’s not broke). SIL is also mooching off of her elderly parents for plane tickets. [/quote]

1. Not asking has nothing to do with freeloading.
2. Correct, no specifics were offered about who pays for pizza or bagels.  So that is not evidence for or against freeloading.
3.  She may be "freeloading" off the parents, based on what OP "thinks" (but does not know).  But clearly they are OK with it, which is proof that they are not "enforcing boundaries" around the sister.[/quote]

Based on OP’s description I bet the parents are happy to pay for her flight so they don’t have Spinster Sis at their home for weeks at a time every holiday season. [/quote]

Really? What part of OP's posts make you say that?

Was it this? "His parents always take her side-- I think she's forever 12 in their eyes."
Or this? "DH partially blames his parents for the situation. They catered to her all of their lives and were very upset when she wanted to move away."

Or the complete absence of saying that ANYTHING about SIL is bad other than that she is around more than they want and that she does not wait for an invitation?

And tell me more about your use of "Spinster"?  What did you mean to convey by that term?[/quote]

[b]Oooh I’ve struck a nerve! Found the SIL[/b]! Go find friends and hobbies and expand your world outside your brother’s family.

Spinster: an unmarried woman, typically an older woman beyond the usual age for marriage.[/quote]

God, you people are so predictable and so tiresome. Always with these these same insipid middle school wannabe-gotcha moment replies?

Several of us disagree with you. I’m neither PP nor OP, I’m married with kids and you sound like a pathetic, insecure overgrown mean girl. Sad.[/quote]

+1 Super crazy.[/quote]

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