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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah OP = sorry everyone is being so harsh about your request but it's just hard to say in this environment and more kids get rejected than admitted to almost all of the top 100 schools.   So that's why everyone is being so negative.

But yes, my DS got into 1 of his reaches and rejected from 4 other reaches.  He ended up at a target and is very happy he chose that school.

I'm in it now with my DS 2023 senior and it really is all about the idea that no school is perfect, admissions is hard to predict,[b] he will get into some school and probably like it,[/b] he has schools in the reach, target and safety that he would like to attend.  And he knows from his older brother there is no school that is really perfect and you don't have to pick the school that is ranked highest.

Note as well - I know a few kids from my older DS year that transferred - even from high-ranking schools - so it really is better to focus on what your kid wants versus how a school is ranked.[/quote]

The bolded part is what I think my family needs to focus on.  The reason all these people are saying their kid is so happy they chose the school they did is, at least partially, b/c it's the only school they know as a student.  Kids can be happy at a lot of places if they can let go of the idea that there was one perfect school for them.  I was happy at my college, but I know I would have had a completely different and, likely, completely happy experience at a much larger school.  My kid loves a T25 school with scary admissions rates, no ED option, but also without super high average stats for freshman class.  No hook here, so we know the chances are slim.  I think you have to be OK going somewhere where your stats are higher than the average. [/quote]

And "going somewhere where your stats are higher than average" is perfectly fine. Keep in mind that a 1350 SAT is ~90th percentile.  Still someone who is really smart, and your kid will do just fine surrounded by others like that even if they have a 1580.  In fact, it might be helpful to learn to associate with a variety of people, because nobody is in a job where everyone is a "genius".  Good practice for life.

If you want to choose a bigger school with more range of scores, then pick the honors college to find your group of "higher scoring" kids.

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Agree with you.  The “stats higher than average” comment says a lot about that poster.  Stats aren’t everything.  There are really bright kids who are lte bloomers, creative kids who don’t do well in traditional  HS settings, etc.  Thise kids have a ton to offer.  Your “high stats” kid may gain a different perspective.[/quote]

So, what's the point of working hard for those A's in the intense classes?  The response above is disingenuous.  I'm wondering what's the benefit of all that work if you could also get to the same spot with regular classes and more free time.  I mean, I like that idea, but I'm not sure how that would fly with kids who have heard about the importance of class choice and grades since they were in middle school.  [/quote]

Are you kidding me?  Was your child’s whole HS experience aimed at getting into college?  How sad.  Your child has no intellectual curiosity or true interest in learning over just getting As?  The colleges can see that lack of intellectual curiosity and passion and that is what will keep them out.

I actually have a kid who chose more time to pursue other passions over extra weighted classes.  She will not get into a top whatever school, but she will succeed in life no matter where she goes.  She is thoughtful about things and well rounded, mostly, she is mature beyond her years and has great life skills.  She is a senior and going through the process now.  She is happy and knows she will get into one of the schools on her well curated list.  She feels she can bloom anywhere.  She opted out of the race to nowhere and has no regrets.[/quote]

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