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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is an old thread which I just found. My DW is dealing with similar issues; at this point I am ready to move us and our 2 kids to her home country just to end her misery. But some comments here - you can’t move back to home once you leave it; nostalgic vision etc - give me a pause. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to help her with home sickness and how to help her assess what it is that she actually misses? We have a great, financially comfy life here. But she is miserable - everything is better in her country which I know is absurd but the past 6 months were tough. She is pregnant now with #2, so we are planning on moving after the baby is born, next summer. My job is secure; I will be able to work from abroad for about 6 months (I expect they will let me go then; the company really needs someone US based), we have savings and I should be able to find a new gig. I adore my wife but it is very tough to be married to someone who is so home sick. I am not sure I can handle it anymore.[/quote]

What country?

One of the things that struck me most about this thread is that basically only the OP and one other poster ever mentioned what country they are from.  I'm an immigrant too (Germany) and I don't understand the reluctance to mention the country.  People can and will give you different advice based on that.

But I will say that your wife's "everything is better" attitude is really obnoxious and offputting to people, and even if she only says it to you--assuming you are an American--it's still rude and potentially hurtful.[/quote]

She’s Flemish. [/quote]
So she wants to return to Belgium? Have you spent much time there?[/quote]

NP but if you think you can find a good job there and kids are still small, why not at least give it a try? 
You can always come back if it doesn't work out.[/quote]

I think one of the compromises you make when you marry someone from another country is you have to defer to the more homesick one in terms of where you live.

And like dude. Belgium is great. You will become Belgian before you know it, drinking the very strong beer, eating cheese for dessert, finding your favorite sauce for frites, etc. etc. The daycare savings alone will make the move worth it.[/quote]

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