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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is some weird rags to riches story. You grew up MC had a wealthy grandmother and now you're rich and you're put out that MIL doesn't know you and yours are rich, rich, rich! So insecure about money for someone who supposedly has so much. [/quote]

That’s a little unfair.  I think OP was providing that info so we could see how the financial comments don’t make sense.  [/quote]

But MIL probably isn't aware of the change in circumstances.[/quote]

OP here. No prob if you missed this, there are a lot of posts, but she asked right after my grandmother died how much we’d be inheriting. I thought it was an inappropriate question, so I didn’t answer, and she kept asking and I finally said “it’s a significant amount,” and my husband was mortified and reprimanded her for pushing it since it was right after i’d gotten home from the funeral, and sort of bizarre. So she was aware, but obviously had forgotten.[/quote]

You really have to get past this money thing. It must be causing you grief beyond your MIL given your intense focus on it.

But really, if all you told her was “a significant amount” — she might assume $100k and not millions. Especially if you are always acting to insecure about being from such A POOR TOWN. Some of her worries about your parent's finances might be because of your hang ups.

But really, she is annoying but not terrible. You have to find a way not to let her get to you.[/quote]

OP here. What is annoying to me is the above "her worries about your parents finances." Why does she have any thoughts on my parents' finances, period? It's not like my husband and I are reliant on anyone else. My parents' situation is my parents' situation. Certainly I'm not worried about them. What interest of hers is it? Even if I haven't "corrected" her that my parents are now multi-millionaires, why does it matter? People who are so shallow that they need to know someone else's (particularly people she doesn't know very well) financial situation are busybodies, and quite frankly, insecure. Would it make her feel better about herself if my parents were poor? It doesn't affect my life now. We have a $2M home, that we've worked and paid for ourselves. I guess I just don't understand why it matters.[/quote]

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