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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I understand where OP is coming from. Kinda.

My MIL is similar. Elderly, lovely lady, friendly and kind but sometimes has no clue. She stopped working after DH was born (he's the eldest of 3). FIL had a successful career and his earnings enabled MIL to stay at home and for all 3 children to go to expensive private schools.
The family also had a housekeeper.

I love MIL but she sometimes says things that make me raise my eyebrows. Like working at Subway is an 'awful' job. OK it may not be a job that I would apply for given that I have other options, but I don't think it's awful. I can think of many other jobs that are a lot harder.[/quote]

It's not that the job is hard, it's a low paying menial job. MIL likely has higher hopes for her family members. You would never do the job, you just don't say it out loud.[/quote]

True. None of us actually work at Subway or similar but when she said it I felt it came across as a bit patronizing, especially given that she had enjoyed a privileged lifestyle most of her married life.[/quote]

She's just saying what you're thinking but out loud. She's old and doesn't have a filter. It's just as patronizing feeling sorry for those poor people who have to work there. Likely many of them are franchise owners and it's a family business and they aren't as worthy of your sympathy as you think anyway.[/quote]

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