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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think if you can find a way to be cordial and never have sex with the person again and live somewhat separately the way these no-sex marriages work that is safe and respectable if not fulfilling, it could maybe work out at least till the kids are out of the house. Have a new set of rules to follow about the marriage that both of you agree to and adhere to. I can't imagine living in fear or living a lie is healthy for anyone and it's rubbish to believe that someone cheating on you especially repeatedly actually still loves you. I think a lot of women miss the money but not the man if you are asking strictly about women.[/quote]

Keep in mind "no-sex marriage" means that he continues to sleep with his AP.[/quote]

Obviously, but who cares? If you decide you don’t wanna have sex with them again but you’re staying married because of the marriage it doesn’t matter. I think people really can’t understand they can actually decide they will never have sex with their husbands again and then they don’t care if they’re sleeping with anybody else. That’s actually a good thing because then he’s not going to bother his wife anymore he doesn’t want to be with him. I had a no sex marriage seriously because I couldn’t stand him and I was staying because of the kids for the longest time but we still ended up divorced but I full out told him I didn’t care if he slept with anybody else. I was never sleeping with him again. I did not want to be married but I was trapped geographically and I had to stay and eventually I was able to leave because I am moving to the right location but it took almost a decade. He did not have a mistress but I told him he could have one and I wouldn’t divorce him over cheating but I would divorce him over being a jerk and eventually I did. (Low T). The point is if a woman decides she’s done having sex with her husband she doesn’t really care if he’s having sex with his AP. [/quote]
Agree with you 100%. And yet there are plenty (most?) on this forum who genuinely think a "sexless marriage" means the man remains
 celibate! Though I question if your husband did have a mistress, perhaps he was one of those rare low T guys.[/quote]

He had low T. Diagnosed. But the point is if he had cheated, I wouldn’t have cared because I was done. I actually wish for years that he would cheat so I would have a public excuse to leave the marriage because it makes it easier if there’s a reason and people don’t ask. But he never did. Are used to actually wish he would cheat and fall in love with somebody and leave me and marry her so he would get the hell away from me. It never happened. [/quote]

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