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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I was young - late teens and early twenties - and at the height of my physical beauty, I engaged in some promiscuity which included some one night stands. It wasn’t until years later that I understood the roots of this behavior, but at the time I didn’t see it as anything other than me experiencing my sexuality with men I found attractive in mutually fulfilling encounters.

One night I found myself in bed with a visiting professor of a local university who I had met and engaged in mutual seduction with at a local bar over billiards and drinks. We had not yet consummated the coupling when he let slip that he had a wife and kids back home in Canada. Despite his protestations, and I realize in retrospect that I was lucky he didn’t just force himself on me, I got out of bed got dressed and left. I told him as I was dressing that I could never knowingly be a participant in infidelity - that even if it wasn’t my promises at issue, I lived by a strong code that I owed respect to other peoples’ marriages. Of course the whole point of publication of wedding banns is to make known impediments to marriage, and the publication of wedding announcements is to inform the community of the status of certain persons. Rings are another, better public announcement of unavailability - which is of course why so many men don’t wear them. They blame the job or whatever - fine, take it off from 9-5 but put it on all other times - all kinds of excuses why that isn’t practical. I would never trust a husband who wouldn’t wear his ring willingly and enthusiastically.

I found myself tricked once or twice in my travels, and those experiences upset me to think about. I have no sympathy for single women or men who knowingly engage in affairs with married people - in particular if they know the married person is a parent. I think it requires a certain level of narcissism and sociopathy in a person’s psychological makeup to engage in such behavior, and some do it exclusively. It’s gross.[/quote]

That's because you are a decent person.  I also was raised it was wrong to have sex, much less openly throw myself at married men (or even men in committed relationships to someone else).  My brother was taught the same.  I think some people were raised to see infidelity in their own homes and dysfunction that they see nothing wrong with it.  The values and integrity aren't there.  They saw lying was okay if it meant a way of fulfilling a desire. Everyone else be damned. Me, me, me.[/quote]

It says a lot about a person's character.  [/quote]

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