Reply to What do you do when your adult child goes into therapy and lays blame at your feet.

Forum Index » Adult Children

Reply to "What do you do when your adult child goes into therapy and lays blame at your feet."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is always the parents fault and I am not being sarcastic.[/quote]

Op here, I will say that DH was my most challenging kid. [b]He was headstrong and demanding from the time he was a baby. He was rarely content and cried a lot as a baby. He fought potty training and putting on clothes. I would dress him, he would take it off.[/b]  If we wanted him do his chores, he would argue about why it was unfair or he shouldn't have to do it - for a much longer time than the chore would take. He dropped out of college and blamed us because shouldn't have made him go in the first place. This is his personality.[/quote]

Right up until my mother died she would throw in my face how I cried a lot as a baby and never wanted her to rock me. As if I was being mean to her, as if I should apologize for how I was as a BABY and TODDLER. Please do not do this to your son.[/quote]

+1. My dad still talks about how much it hurt his feelings when I as a 2-3 year old would cry when my mom left for work and how I liked my mom more than I liked him. Yes, really. I knew/know it’s ridiculous for him to say this or feel this way and bring it up still 30+ years later but to be honest I do feel a twinge of guilt for “hurting his feelings.” I think my dad and other adults who do stuff like this (such as possibly OP) are narcissistic.[/quote]

[b]His feelings are still hurt.[/b] Otherwise he would have forgotten about it. Wait until you become a parent, you'll have your feelings hurt too.[/quote]

That’s probably true. But that’s not toddler PP’s fault or responsibility and the dad shouldn’t be guilt tripping her about it still years later. Many if not most young kids prefer their moms. Many if not most young kids cry easily when their preferred caregiver leaves. That is normal baby/toddler stuff and an emotionally mature adult should understand that and get over it, even if it does hurt their feelings. [/quote]

+1 What is it with our parents?!? I swear I feel like I'm raising a real child on one end and also having to deal with grown up, immature kids on the other end. It's exhausting. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics