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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Quiet low-key kids should go to LACs. We made the exact same mistake with our oldest. We knew he was anxious and overwhelmed and struggled to come out of his shell — but we sent him to the state flagship because it was perceived to be more prestigious than LACs within driving distance. He was immediately overwhelmed and became a loner and before long was ditching most of his classes. If you have no friends, you don’t even want to eat in the cafeteria because it’s so embarrassing to eat alone. If nobody invites you anywhere on a weekend, it’s embarrassing to even walk around the dorm, so you become a shut-in. Even the brightest kids spiral quickly.[/quote]

This is my fear about DS - but he’s determined to ED to the state flagship. I think however it’s all about the luck of who is your roommate and who do you meet in your dorm, right ?[/quote]

Having a good roommate is definately key.  Even if they are not best friends, if they are decent, friendly, respectful and inclusive, it is huge to have at least someone to hang with the first few weeks and also to not have drama when you return to your dorm room.   In my experience (3 kids attending college/2 already graduated), having a decent roommate is really key to successful start to college.  If your kid is determined to attend the state flagship then I'd let them go, but have talks about the pluses/minuses.  Does your kid really know what it's like to have 400+ kids in a class versus less than 50 in most classes at a smaller school? [/quote]

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