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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’re insane to want another baby.

I am 41 and have a toddler. Parenthood has made me an anxious, depressed mess. I would love the freedom and free time to travel with friends, go hiking & skiing, go out to dinner, etc. Instead, we are chained to our home all the time trying to deal with a needy, stubborn, and high energy toddler. I mourn for my old life.

Do all the stuff you listed, but skip the baby. That’s just irrational hormones talking. You’ll be a generation older than the parents in your new baby’s classes.[/quote]

OP here: I am a very young (on average 10 years younger) mom comparing to other moms at my son's school. Not sure why being 10 years older than other moms should scare me off. Why men are "allowed" to have kids with younger women in their 50-60s but it's not ok for a woman? Do they actually have higher energy to be equal parent, or just go along the tide with younger partners who want kids?

I am still feeling broody, sexual and want to get pregnant. I feel the same in early 40s as in my late 30s and my desire to have a second child didn't disappear out of a sudden just because I got couple years older. With so much more free time in my hands now I feel that late 40s would be a way better timing to have a second child vs my "surprise" pregnancy in 20s which got me stuck in marriage for 18 long years.

Childbirth is not a catastrophe or end of life: I do believe having kids is fun, in all ages. I love doing stuff with toddlers, mid and high schoolers. All ages are interesting. You can travel with toddlers: of course it would be impossible to do no rope rock climbing but you can do many other fun things. I would take an au-pair or living-in nanny on my trips, we did it with our son when he was a toddler and it worked out just fine. He also was cranky locked at home but loved travel, new places and being entertained. Boys are attention-challenged and need change of scenery, sports and activities to keep them busy and happy.

I truly consider children as the only valuable thing you leave after yourself on earth: nobody would ever remember your career, or a nice house or how nice of a person you had been beside your kids and grandkids. [/quote]

You have it all figured out and you dismiss every word anyone says to you that doesn’t feed your preexisting bias, so just ask the moderator to delete this thread. It’s pointless.[/quote]

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