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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe contact the mother, if you must. I have a half sibling (different circumstances, but similar actions by my dad). Some of my siblings choose to contact her, which caused a rift between us. Ultimately, my siblings essentially ghosted half sibling in an attempt to fix things with our sibling group. Long story short: contact caused more pain than if they just left it alone.[/quote]

Sounds like you were opposed to contact and threw a snit when your full sibs went ahead anyway.[/quote]

I wasn't consulted or even given a heads up beforehand. It felt like a betrayal, honestly. They made a decision for me and I made my own decision when I was told what they did. I did not meet my half sibling. If they had discussed it with me, I would have discouraged them. They ultimately couldn't handle the new relationship and bailed. They hurt me, our half sister and each other. Some things are best left alone.[/quote]

They did not make a decision for you. They made a decision for them. If you didn’t want contact, fine, but you should have been supportive for them. Sounds like you ruined everyone. [/quote]

I've read all of your sock puppet replies. To be clear: my siblings are profoundly dysfunctional and unreliable. I was blindsided. If they'd have talked to me beforehand, I would've discouraged them because I knew they would hurt everyone involved. Our sister would have been better off continuing no contact. Instead, she was *abandoned* twice.

To the op: if you really want to pursue this, start with the mother. [/quote]

FYI, I wrote about the child being innocent and you shouldn't have taken it out on them and I am NOT this PP.

I'm not sure why it's so hard for to believe that many [b]others would think what you did was awful... because it was. [/b]

I guess whatever it is you have to tell yourself to make you feel better that's what you do, right?
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I didn't actually *do* anything. My siblings essentially popped into her life, stirred up all kinds of emotional sh1t and then ghosted her. When I was told they made contact, I declined to engage. I know how messed up my siblings are and I am too, but I'm self aware and I knew they would hurt her and they did. So now she's lost her birth father and 5 half siblings. If you ask her, I'm sure she regrets accepting contact.

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No, sweetie, you SAID you forced them to choose you over her. You b_ch.[/quote]

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