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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yup. Mom always SAHM, was divorced w/ a child when she married my Dad. Then my parents had 3 children. Mom was jealous Dad's 1st son was his favorite, then me, Dad's oldest daughter. Mom's fav was her son (with previous husband) & youngest daughter (who may or not be my Dad's. After Dad passed, Mom changed the will so Dad's fav got 10% of the estate & if we either of us died, our spouses & children get nothing. Mom's son got 30% of estate, plus was executor + another account. Mom's fav daughter got 50%. But that wasn't all- Mom knew she was dying about a year before, and made "loans" to fav daughter, with no "payback provisions. And she changed the beneficiary on Dad's 401k & all brokerage accounts to her (we estimate over  $10M, they were opened in early 70s) , so they never went through the estate. 
While she was living Mom never had an issue asking either my brother or I for money because she was "short" & we never refused her. She would give us a list of what she wanted for a holiday gift- washer, dryer, TV, etc. AND we bought them, even if it meant a fight with our spouses.
Of course when the will was sent to us, after the funeral we were hurt & angry. Nothing we can do...except we will never speak to the two favs and there is no relationship between the grandchildren.  And both of us apologized profusely to our spouses for everything that went on) 
(And we retell this story as a precautionary tale. Although, funny when we told other relatives/ friends, they were shocked she would screw her own 2 children, but always thought she was sneaky person & not too nice).

I heard this happens more than you would think.[/quote]

I'm sorry but you sound entitled
I would not cut out family just because we inherited unequally[/quote]

I'm the pp above you, and don't consider myself entitled. My dad will die before my step mom and I would never expect her to give me $$. I know it will go to her kids. But, if my parents gave two kids the equivalent of $5m and two kids zero, yeah I would have a a hard time seeing them. [/quote]

But the problem is with the parents fixing unequally. Not with the kids. So why cut out the kids and the grandkids[/quote]

Because she can’t control her anger and bitterness. [/quote]

NP here.  I would be able to control it, but why put myself in a position to relive the hurt that my mom caused?  Their presence would be a constant reminder if we weren't close enough that these feelings crept in then inbound just protect myself. I understand her and I have a loving supportive family that wouldn't do this.  It's human psychology.  Just expect her to be human.[/quote]

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