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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have experience (3 kids) in DCPS and top privates, including Holton/NCS. 
I will say that the mean kid behavior is significantly less in public than in private, likely in part because the cohorts are larger at each step of the way. 
A larger cohort means a kid can find her people and can escape any mean kid behavior. 
It can be much harder in the small private school grades and classes.

That said, one key to not falling victim to the mean kid stuff is to not get sucked into the mean kid drama.  Teach your look to kids other than the popular kids 
to be their friends.  I have a girl at NCS/Holton and there are some mean girls in the grade and associated drama girls getting excluded and hurt.  But there are also many girls quietly doing their own thing and avoiding this drama entirely.  [/quote]

What does NCS/Holton (which one?) do about it?
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I'm curious as I hear this a lot.. what does "quietly doing your own thing" mean?.can a genuinely social kid adopt this approach - what would it look like? [/quote]

In my experience with daughters at NCS/Holton, there are always about 5 girls in a grade who are the popular/drama girls.  In general, stay clear of them.  Don't attempt friend them, don't invite them to your birthday parties, etc. 
The girls who do end up in the endless circle of drama. 
Find a few girls who are studious and friend them.  Work on building a few solid, true friendships with girls who are outside of the epicenter of things. 
Stay off social media. 
Get involved with things outside of school.

But mainly, just stay clear of the popular/drama girls.  There are always girls who chase after them and they just torture themselves. 99% of the time they are not opening up their circle to more members. 
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This is good advice for all females, at all types of schools, and even in later stages of life.[/quote]

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