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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I rushed and joined a sorority at a non-southern school in the mid-90s. It was technically a fraternity for women, bc when founded in the early 1900s our founders didnt want to be lumped in w the sororities of women who were just there to be “sister groups” to the mens fraternities.

Sororities/fraternities do a lot more than just party. I was on the executive committee of mine (like pres, vp, etc.) so obv very involved but I went to maybe 2 frat parties my entire college career. I wasnt into frat guys so I saw no reason to go. That was ok because I joined a sorority that liked me as a person, not just one that only consists of hot chicks picking other hot chicks. There were plenty of other things to do w my sisters other than frat parties. Granted, I wasn't in one of the “top” sororities on campus. Maybe if I was, it would have been different.

The rush process was a bit stressful, but it lasts maybe a week -10 days. Its basically a week during which every woman who wants to join a sorority meets all of the sororities at the school one after another, like speed dating. and learns about them: their values, their activities, their philanthropy, basically the vibe of the place. Every sorority has a diff vibe. Some are perfect for the “hot chicks”, some for the fun girls, smart girls, nice girls, athletic girls, etc. You choose which house fits where you can see yourself fitting in best over the next 4 years. Then, they do the same. And hopefully you match, or receive a bid. At my school, there was one sorority that had some very nice women in it, not conventionally attractive. Many were overweight. They gave every single woman a bid. And they were a v tight sisterhood. Everybody wants to belong somewhere.

What I loved about being in a sorority was having a built-in support system. Even now that I am in my 40s, we just made a move and I dont know anyone. There is a local chapter of my sorority though so I was able to reach out join it and meet a few people.[/quote]

FYI--[b]rush is not like that at most universitie[/b]s.  Also, "everybody wants to belong somewhere".   Well that can be accomplished thru normal social interactions.  I attended a university where 40-50% were Greek (I obviously wasn't).  I had a normal social life and a great group of friends.  However, I found those friends on my own, because we had similar interests.  But freshman rush started during new student week fall of freshman year, so before classes had even started.  I lived in the frat quad (unfortunately), so all 40 girls on my floor except me and a friend rushed.  My first week on a college campus involved watching these girls go trhu the highs/lows of the prices.  One day they wanted X and Y and hated Z.  But when X and Y cut them in round 2 and Z was the best left, suddenly they just loved Z and it's the place for the.  It was just so superficial.  Girls that had stared becoming friends in the first 2 days drifted apart, because they went to different sororities and girls from those 2 sororities typically were not Friends.   Meanwhile, I was happily making my own friends on my own---not following the "middle school way for popular girls"
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You're wrong and you wouldn't know since you said yourself that you are not greek. The PP's experience is exactly my experience and my DDs thirty years later. The problems and the stress come in because of the perceived popularity of a particular house, which is really a problem during fall freshman year rush because in reality they know no one in these houses and are just going on popularity. My DD rushed in spring and by then had had a few "rush dates" with people she'd met in the sororities so she not only had a vision of what was "popular" but she also knew some more about the types of girls that she'd interact with because she had met them in an informal setting.[/quote]

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