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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH is a SAHD and it works out great for our family. I'm an attorney and while I have more flexibility now than I did earlier in my career, I often have client meetings and deadlines that I just can't move if one of the kids gets sick for example.  Our youngest is starting 1st grade and we never would've made it through the pandemic and a year+ of virtual school without DH. He is involved at the kids' school, coaches their sports teams, and does 85% of the stuff around the house. He's constantly busy with something, whether it's a new home project or running the kids all over town for their actives. We both feel strongly about being involved in our kids' lives and I love the fact that he is so hands-on as a parent.

He provides for our family just as much as I do. No question. There's no resentment between us and we have a great marriage. My kids and I are fortunate that he has enough self-confidence to provide for our family in any way that's needed, which has allowed me to focus on my career, despite the low opinion of SAHDs that so many of you seem to have. We don't worry about what others think and honestly, I don't know of a situation where it was ever an issue.

I truly don't understand how on the one hand, people can champion women having careers and climbing the corporate ladder while being so judgmental about her husband taking on a bigger role at home in order to support her career. Men have long benefitted from having stay at home wives. Women should be able to have the same support for their careers if that's what works best for their family. [/quote]
I agree with you. If the dad is doing a lot at home, just as a woman would do as a sahm, and supporting his wife's career at the same time, I don't think that's a bad thing, and I don't think I would look down on that.

We actually need more dads to be involved at school.  I also find that dads tend to be the coaches in rec leagues, and I'm grateful for that, too.[/quote]

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