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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I separated when my kids were 11 and 9.  Dad lives a few blocks away.  We don't treat the kids like a time card. In the beginning my ex was very worried about custodial time with the kids.
Despite the tightly worded separation agreement I voluntarily let the kids spend half of their holidays with dad and his natal family sometimes.  He also has some work commitments so needs me to stand in sometimes.  The kids have free choice to either stay after dinner or walk a few blocks over to spend time at the other parent's home.  Dad does not give them grief if there is a huge project due or a big test the next day where they feel the need to be at the home most accommodating for them academically.  For 2 summers now, at my behest, each kid has spent the entire summer at their paternal grandparents home working their first summer job because it is so hard for a teen to get a job in NYC.
Outcome is that Ex is not uptight about custodial time.  Great for the kids because if Ex acts like a jerk (which he did while married) the kids are free to walk out.  So he has to treat them decently.
Give the kids some agency in the matter.[/quote]

The difference is your ex has plenty of time with the kids and flexibility.  OP is clear its very limited visitation.  The child acts up with OP and she is encouraging the behavior.  Kids that age don't just get to up and leave.  And, if they do, OP should have consequences.  [/quote]

He doesn’t act up with me.  [/quote]

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