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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, the parent with the kid is in charge of the kid, especially when the child is 14.

What does he think would happen if he asked his father about going for a run, or told his father casually that he was thinking of doing a run that afternoon? Would his dad say "no?" Why?

It is starting to sound like this is more about wanting to make a statement then about taking some time away to keep things chill. If that's the case, and if a parent has custody for a given timeframe, then that parent has primary decision-making over how time is spent (obviously, if it's something immediately unsafe, different issues kick in -- like, I don't know, dad playing Russian roulette with a gun).  You need to be clear about that. He doesn't have to fake enjoying it, but he is expected to be at least minimally polite and defer to the adult in charge at that age.[/quote]

I think if he told his Dad he wanted to go for a run, Dad would come (which he doesn’t want) or tell him no, or document it as my failure to provide him with his allotted parenting time.

And yes, he wants to make a point.  
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Dad has every right to say no.  [/quote]

What kind of father forbids his son from engaging in healthy exercise? Oh right, a narcissistic control freak.[/quote]

It sounds like dad gets a few hours.  He can exercise on moms time. None of this makes sense as they go to aunts house who supervises and will be a witness to the visits.  Mom is the control freak blocking dads relationship.  [/quote]

I'm confused how me taking my kids to the location their Dad chooses is me being a control freak and blocking their relationship.  If Dad wants his kids to see their cousins, and so chooses that as the location for visitation, wouldn't the control freak thing be if I said "no"?  [/quote]

Yoru priority is not your son seeing family but encouraging him to leave the visit and how you can legally do it.  [/quote]

My priority is helping my son set the boundaries he needs to feel safe.  Taking a break wasn't my idea.  I certainly didn't suggest it.  But I also think it's a reasonable way for him to express his feelings.

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Then you get him in therapy, and be a parent.  Your approach will hurt him.  That’s not parenting.  How is he not safe seeing his cousins and aunt!   [/quote]

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