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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your problem is that you have inserted a whole lot of "we" into the process.  It shouldn't be "we," it should be your kid.  Your job is to tell your kid how much you are willing to and can pay.  That's it.[/quote]

No, that's not "it". You give you kid loads of advice and direction about many things, why should this one decision - the most impactful and expensive they will make for some time in their lives - be an exception? It should not, and it is not for most normal families.

You people that jump all over the use of "we" - I just don't get it.  "We decided to eat dinner at Outback Steak House" is fine but "We decided to spend $300,000 on CMU" is not?

Ridiculous.[/quote]

The people who say their kids can do it all alone must be full pay. We are in real life over here and working side by side with our minor child to make this enormous decision that we are paying 100s of thousands for...

It's fine as a PP said.

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Yup!  18 is not a magical age where a parent says "great, you're an adult, no more help/guidance from me". My 26yo still asks for guidance and I give it.  They can function on their own, but they know we are always here to help guide them and be sounding board.  [/quote]

It's common sense, the detractors are probably lazy $hitheads who's kids hate them anyway.[/quote]

Or perhaps your child simply requires assistance because they’re not mature or smart enough to navigate the process on their own. Or perhaps you’re a stifling helicopter mom control freak who doesn’t trust their child’s judgement or work ethic.[/quote]

Or perhaps my kid doesn't need assistance but knows it's there when needed because they are mature and smart enough to ask for help?  Or perhaps you're a lazy absentee mother that doesn't communicate with their kid and assumes they have it all figured out because you can't be bothered?[/quote]

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