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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m just remembering what it was like to apply in the late 90s.  I did everything including setting up the tours.  Why have things changed?[/quote]

Because in the 90s, most of the Ivies and 20-25% acceptance rates, not 5%. Back in the day, it was easy for a kid with a 1300+ and 3.8+ to get into most state schools---now not so much.   So it was extremely easy to pick "safeties/targets/reaches".  When I applied, it was extremely easy to get into VaTech, even engineering.  It was basically a guarantee if you had a 2.0 and actually graduated HS (engineering was a bit "harder", but still extremely easy for a decent student in VA to get into) and UVA was not that difficult to gain admissions if you had a 1300+ and 3.8+gpa.

Majority of kids are actively involved in the process, but I know we felt the need to ensure the process was done well to ensure our kids had at least several true safeties with acceptances.  My kid drives the process, with the help of a college counselor, who mainly helped us develop the best list of schools.  Without that counselor, I'm not sure my kid would have even found the school they are attending (and it's a T30) or their top safety school (which my kid really liked).  And the counselor was helpful for being the one to "Nag" to keep kids on a schedule (my extremely smart motivated kid is also a major procrastinator and that got worse with Covid and 16 months of online school).  I was not obsessed with finding Ranked schools---I wanted to ensure my kid found the best fit, as I know success in college is about fit for the student, if they are happy, they will do well. 
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Sure it’s harder.  But what are you expecting to happen when your kid actually goes to college and doesn’t have mom or dad or hired help to get motivated?[/quote]

New poster...Why you so salty and bitter?  It's perfectly fine for mom and dad to be a part of the process, try it sometime.  You might find that your kid actually appreciates it and a college counselor doesn't cost that much for a couple of sessions, do you do all of the technical work in your life?  Hiring an expert is pragmatic and smart especially when making a major life decision but you do you.[/quote]

Yes!  Similarly, while my kid will manage college on their own, I will also make sure I understand the courses they need and help double check so they are on track to graduate in 4 years, with a double major in engineering or a single major and a minor.  My kid is doing all the work themselves, but I will double check because a mistake/bit of carelessness could mean an extra $80K. [/quote]

No, that is not healthy. You will not always be there to perform this function. THE SCHOOL PAYS ADVISORS TO DO THIS EXACTLY. You can remind your kid to meet with their advisor when they schedule senior year classes.

Your job now is to teach your kid to use the resources at his/her college. It is not to keep checking on his progress. Really, please instead try to teach him/her to do this himself. That will also build confidence in him/her that he is maturing into a capable adult.
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+1000[/quote]

+1000? Are you people 12?  You seem like a bunch of Taylor Swift worshiping weirdos, get a life.[/quote]

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