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[quote=Anonymous]19:15 pp and I just want to also add that I feel confident a lot of folks are about to come on here op and tell you you’re overreacting (it was a few sips here and there! He didn’t even get drunk this is all because you are controlling/overreacting/etc). I urge you to ignore them. They likely don’t have deep experience with substance use disorders. There is a lot here to say that there is a good bit of risk here of this escalating. He knows it too and that’s why it’s been weighing on him. The quantity of the alcohol is not important here, it’s when he’s drinking and how. It is an escape and he feels out of control. That is what is important. Please follow your gut and get yourself and him support. Of course yes you don’t need to say omg he’s an alcoholic, that’s not the case - but he clearly feels he has difficulty controlling it and as you know these things can spiral quickly. So please just ignore those who gaslight you on this. This is NOT your fault. He is responsible for his behavior. If he wanted to have a glass of hard liquor here and there he could have come and talk to you to say things have changed and I’d like to do this. You clearly have a relationship he could do that based on his response to your inquiry. He didn’t because this isn’t about having a drink with his buddies or having one drink to relax at night. It’s serving a purpose for him right now, filling something. [/quote]

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